Let Jesus Be Your Boyfriend | Singleness Series | Blessing
We are ready to get into our third guest post of the week. You know I was going to post yesterday, but the Lord told me no. I am content with being single, but I am not fully content. How on earth can I speak on singleness and I am still learning how to be myself, draw closer to God, and learn what the Lord says about being single. I am grateful that He corrects me because I never want to give you dry crumbs, so yesterday we took a break from the series. Picking it back up with my sweet sister Blessing. How can you not love that name.
My name is Blessing and I am the founder of TheFallibleQueen, a faith-based lifestyle blog that focuses on life, beauty, inspiration, and everything in between. I enjoy reading, volunteering, shopping, writing, learning about other cultures, taking pictures, and decorating. Feel free to follow me on social media. Come join me on this journey called life and be inspired.
Hey guys! My name is Blessing and I am the founder of a faith-based lifestyle blog called The Fallible Queen. This name came to me when I was reflecting on my life throughout my years and up to my current season. I am fallible meaning I am prone to make mistakes but I am also a Queen. A Queen in the biblical sense sets herself apart from others, knows her identity is rooted in Christ, loves unconditionally and through her mistakes learns from them to become the best version of herself. She clings to God rather than following the ways of the world. The Fallible Queen is so much more than a name, it’s a way of life. My hope is to continuously encompass these truths, so without further ado, here’s my story.
We live in a world different from our parents, we live in a generation that is more explicit than the last. If there’s one thing I’ve learned through all these experiences it’s that it’s important to stay grounded, to remember who it is you belong to. This world will try their best to sway you to their side, promising happiness, fun and success. When reality is we often realize after many years this is all an illusion used as a distraction to hinder us from the purpose God has destined for our lives.
When I was in high school I was made fun of and insulted, so my self- esteem wasn’t very high. I was in a couple relationships just to claim that I was in a relationship, trying to keep up with others in high school. It’s not to say that I didn’t like those people because I truly did but part of me attached my self-worth to being in relationships. I comprised some of my values to please my partner because I was again trying to keep up with my peers around me.
In college, I noticed recurring patterns in my relationships or my situation ships. There is usually one person who we experience the on-again, off-again relationship with. I continued to try to make things work because I truly cared for that person. For example, I would offer to drive to meet the person or I would constantly put myself before the other person to make sure things were good. This cycle continued throughout my college years. What I was longing for in humans, I needed to find in God.
Throughout the years of situation ships and intimate relationships, I have learned a lifetime of truths. For those unfamiliar with situation ships, they are relationships without the label on them. For example, they have the benefits of a relationship without the title of boyfriend or girlfriend. Unfortunately, a lot of women find themselves in these circumstances when they don’t realize their worth, I was one of those women. Fortunately, we have a God who will save us from ourselves without us realizing it.
These are anecdotes that many young girls and older women can relate to, that feeling of wanting to be belong. I’m here to tell you that you will always have a sense of belonging in God. I was desperately searching for my identity in human beings, failing to realize that my identity was rooted in Christ. Before I realized this, I was in several emotionally and physically unstable relationships. I’m here to tell you I was simply looking for love in all the wrong places, someone to help me forget about my loneliness, to never leave me and tell me how beautiful I was.
During this season, I didn’t want to listen to anyone especially God, I thought that I was fine. This is one of the biggest lies the enemy will try to use to convince you, that you don’t need God’s guidance you are fine all by yourself. I made several mistakes because of this, but I thank God that he had people around me that continuously reminded me that this was not me. These were/ are my accountability partners and I feel it is essential to have those in one’s life. Ask yourself, do I have those who I can truly lean on? Do they lead me closer to Christ or do they lead me closer to the world? Pray to God for those types of people, they are the ones who will elevate you in your Christian faith.
There will be seasons where it may feel like the only person you can turn to is God and that’s how it should be. The longing for human companionship will present itself. In those moments, I immerse yourself in the word, spend some quiet time with God and allow him to speak to me. I ask God to bring into my life people that will uplift me. In addition, it’s important that we learn how to be by ourselves without feeling lonely. Get outside and enjoy nature, go to a park and journal, have a food date with the Lord. These are some of the things I have done to combat longing for human companionship and it has helped me.
Take it from me, this world ruled by Satan will try their best to change who God has called you to be, cling to God. Throughout my years, I have learned so much about life, relationships and situation ships, through it all your only hope is to trust in God. I promise he will deliver if you call on his name. Lastly, never be ashamed of the experiences who have shaped you into the person you are, whether those experiences were a product of your own doing. Being ashamed only hinders you from walking in your purpose that God has for your life. We are all children of God and it’s important that we realize that God has forgotten our transgressions, our past once we ask for forgiveness and move forward.
-Stay Blessed y’all
Wow! Such an amazing post. Thank you blessing! Please share, like, and comment on this powerful post. Seriously you all are amazing. Thank you so much for reading, and I pray that these posts are blessing you because they are truly blessing me! Tomorrow is Friday, and we have Karen from I am kyt. I love you all so much. Have a blessed day!