How Your Relationships Can Affect Your Relationship With Christ


Letting go of any kind of relationship can be hard. Starting any kind of new relationship can be hard. The relationship that should matter most of all is our relationship with Christ. Not realizing that the relationships that we are involved in can affect it. Let me break it down for you.

Past Relationships

It’s always hard to let go and move on from an old relationship. It can be an old boyfriend, friend, family member, parent, sister in Christ, coworker, roommate, etc. Even if the relationship ended on a good note it can still be painful because you are losing someone you love/like. I want to focus on the past relationships that may have left you wounded, and in pain. The ones that may have filtered your trust, and belief in God. What we sometimes do is take our pain, and issues and bring them into our relationship with Christ. I was one of His children that did that. You may have been left for someone else, cheated on, stood up, betrayed, beat up, let down, abandoned, treated poorly, lied on, broken down so badly that it is a miracle you are alive, and in your right mind. The mistake we make is thinking that Christ will do the very thing that person did to us, and that is a lie from the pits of hell.

13 Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends
— John 15:13

Jesus loves you unconditionally. He is not like man. He will not hurt you. He died for you sis. I don’t think no man would do this so willingly. He thought of you as nails were being banged into His hands. “This is for _____ (put your name here). I love her with an everlasting love

33 When Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who had come along with her also weeping, he was deeply moved in spirit and troubled.
— John 11:33

Jesus hurts when you hurt. Jesus cares about your pain, and He longs to comfort you, and give you peace. Jesus adored Mary and Martha, and He could not stand to see them weeping. His spirit was shaken with compassion for them! He has compassion for you too. Yes, the wounds are real, and not for your demise. Those wounds are there to be healed, and be healed by the King of Kings. He knows what happened to you sis, and He will never harm you. He is on your side!

Trust me. I understand what you are going through. I may not can walk a mile in your shoes, but I have been broken. I have been rejected so many times. My heart was tainted with hurt. The relationship that the Father wants to have with you is not reaching it’s full potential because it is entangled by past hurt. You can not go deeper with Him when you are holding onto that person who hurt you. That person is fogging your sight on how you view God. It is time to let it go. Confess that you have rejection, trust, insecurities, unforgiveness, and unbelief issues. Confession is the road to freedom. Release the memories to God. Allow Him to consume you with His great love. There is nothing like it. 

Current Relationships

Do not get comfortable. Do not say “I don’t have that problem mentioned above.” “I forgave all of those people.” “I am free.” “I have a Godly circle now.” “My man is saved, and has a relationship with the Lord.” Do not be mistaken your new and fresh relationships can affect your relationship with Christ. Christ is your source. Not your family, friends, or boyfriend. Before you try to check me. It is absolutely good to have an inner circle, and wise counsel around you, but do not put them in front of Christ. Let me give you some examples. You are in a bind, and have to make a decision. You seek the Kingdom of God first, not your friend. You had a bad day. You lay your burden down to Jesus, not your friend. You need to relax. Rest in Jesus first, not call the first person you can think of to go hang out. The Lord just gave you a word. Sit and marinate on that word, you do not have to call your friend and tell her. The Lord just gave you an assignment. Hold that close to your heart, and seek God for His leadership. Don;t call and tell your friend what the Lord told you to do. The Lord reveals His secrets to those He trust. Some stuff the Lord does not want you to release to your inner circle yet. That is between you and Him. I think you can grasp the meaning of this. Christ wants to be first in your life. He wants to be your savior, friend, and companion. He does get jealous. NO more putting Him on the back burner. He desires you, and all of you. He does not want the stuff left over from your relationships. When you constantly are going to everyone else you can drown out His voice, and His guidance.

4 Yet I hold this against you: You have forsaken the love you had at first.
— Revelation 2:4
28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.
— Matthew 11:28
31 Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.”
— Mark 6:31
33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.
— Matthew 6:33
6 But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.
— Matthew 6:6
23 This is what the Lord says:

“Let not the wise boast of their wisdom
or the strong boast of their strength
or the rich boast of their riches,
— Jeremiah 9:23
6 yet for us there is but one God, the Father, from whom all things came and for whom we live; and there is but one Lord, Jesus Christ, through whom all things came and through whom we live.
— 1 Corinthians 8:6
23 Be careful not to forget the covenant of the Lord your God that he made with you; do not make for yourselves an idol in the form of anything the Lord your God has forbidden. 24 For the Lord your God is a consuming fire, a jealous God.
— Deuteronomy 4:23-24

Check your roster today, make sure that Christ is number one. If you have to make some arrangements then do so. Your relationship with Christ is way more important. If a friend gets mad because he/she sees some changes in the relationship then first talk to them, and second pray about the relationship. It may be time to let it go. I have done both, and my relationship with Christ suffered. I am so grateful that He extends grace. I had no idea what I was doing, and He did more than just reveal it to me. He helped me see why it was important that these things get checked. He helped me get in alignment with Him. I had a lot to learn about relationship, and how He designed them. I still have a lot to learn, but I am grateful that He teaches me what His will is for relationships and friendships. I love that about Him. Jesus longs for a deep relationship with all of us, and I would not want anything to sever that, and I hope you don’t either. I love you, but Jesus loves you more. Have a great day!

Faith, LifeLenae Brooks